Some parents may say harsh things when they get angry with their kids. Some parents go beyond that and say very mean things to their kids. They say so mean things that it mentally breaks the kids.
Fortunately, I have got parents who are never hurtful to me. And being a mother I have never ever tried to hurt the feelings of my kids.
But, all are not lucky. What if the closest ones who are to nurture and support you instead give you pain?
If you feel like your mother is not good to you. And If- She always demotes you in front of others. Never encourages you. She abuses you all the time. Then, you may have a toxic mother.
Hopefully, this list of 16 things can bring some light to your life when your mom says hurtful things to you.
1. Show that you are not dependent on her
Your mom says hurtful things because she thinks you are dependent on her. You will not respond to her hurtful sayings. But, you need to show her that you are independent and you do not need her support if she keeps on saying bad things to you all the time.
2. Let dad know about it
If dad is living with you, let dad know what’s happening in your life. Your dad may know a better way to tackle it. If your dad supports you, you will not have to worry again.
3. Listen to your favorite songs
Listening to your favorite songs can lessen the tension in your brain. Music is a great therapy to calm down your mind. Keep a playlist of your favorite songs on your mobile phone and play them when you feel down.
4. Let your friends and relatives know about it
This can help in two ways. You will feel better after sharing your sufferings with others. Secondly, your friends and relatives may have better ways to handle it.
5. Stay calm and do nothing
If you get angry too often, the best way to tackle the situation is not to respond to the situation. Stay calm and escape the situation. This will give you enough time to think positively.
6. Spend time with your pets
It is human nature to feel low when someone says hurtful things to someone. Spending quality time with your pets can relax your mind. This way you will be able to concentrate more on your duties afterward.
7. Go for an outdoor adventure
If you are feeling low after your mom said hurting things to you. If you go for an outdoor adventure you will have fresh air around you. The outer environment is beautiful you will have good time trekking in the mountains, foraging in forests, fishing, hunting, etc.
8. Let her know what she doing wrong
Let her know what she is doing wrong. She may be saying hurtful things without her knowledge. She may change her behavior after she comes to know what you are going through. Sometimes people do makes such mistakes unknowingly.
9. Do your favorite things
Do the things that you love to do most. Doing things that you love most will help you to beat the depression that you may be going through.
10. Watch a movie
This will make your brain divert from the main cause. Imagine you just came from work and entered home with some coarse words from your mom. Your brain will need some distraction to forget it. It is a temporary relief from the situation. Definitely, you will need a permanent solution in the future.
Forgiving is a nice way to address the matter. Even Jesus Christ forgave those who crucified him. Forgiving does not lessen the pain that she has caused you. But, it will give you immense holistic power to you for the good thing you are doing.
12. Get Realistic Expectations
After doing all these it does not guarantee that she will change. You need to have a realistic mindset that she may change or may not. But, it is you who need to move on in life.
Meditation is a great way to remain free from negative thoughts. All People should meditate for 10 to 20 minutes a day to remain focused. It’s a nice way to remain healthy too. People all across the globe are realizing the importance of this ancient therapy. To be honest, this will not lessen the hurtful thoughts your mother has towards you, but definitely, you will boost your inner energy to fight the problem.
14. Yoga for you
Just like meditation yoga makes people calm and flexible. I have seen people composed even after catastrophic changes in their life. Yoga helped them keep control over their emotions and not to break down. It will also bring positivity to your life.
15. Get a Psychologist’s help
It has been seen many times that people who have been under pressure for a long time (may it be at the workplace, home, or elsewhere), undergo depression as time pass on. It is important to take care of yourself or your relative who is going through this. Getting an appointment with a Psychologist can help you to come through this harsh time.
16. Grieve the loss
We grieve only when we lose someone. You have not lost your mother. Then, why will you be in grief? You will grieve for the loss of the mother and child relationship that you should have. This will wipe out the faith you have that your mother is a loving person. You will not feel bad if she says hurtful things to you.
All we have to go through the ups and downs in life. The best we all can do is stay remain positive and find out a solution to put an end to the cause. Remember what is important to you!